

I asked myself, “Does this fact help women have better sex lives, or is it just a totally fascinating and important empirical puzzle?” I've been very intentional about the empirical details I've included or excluded.

Perhaps not surprising given that the author is a sex therapist, but I hadn't realised that – I thought she was a researcher. In other words, the book is primarily therapy, not science. Studies, however revealing, which do not promote such things are ignored. I was hoping it was a survey of the latest scientific research into arousal disorders and sexuality in fact, it's a very selective presentation of those pieces of research that are considered helpful in ‘promoting women's sexual well-being, autonomy and pleasure’. Once you understand these factors, and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible.Īll right so this is not the book I thought it was when I got it, and I apologise for a rating that would surely be higher if I were part of the target audience. Which means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing they are central to it.

And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm.Ĭutting-edge research across multiple disciplines tells us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life, is not what you do in bed or how you do it, but how you feel about it. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr.

So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never exist-but as a result of the research that’s gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women’s sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all. Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function like Viagra does for men. An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works-based on groundbreaking research and brain science-that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.
